Thoughts about forgiveness...
The inability to forgive is sort of like hate in the way that it eats at your soul, tears a person to bits and hardens the heart but does nothing to hurt the person who actually did the damage in the first place. They still live their lives, as wonderful or as horrible as they may be, without being affected in any way by our internal toilings.
The ability to forgive shows extreme strength of character. Sometimes it means taking responsibility for your part in it and then letting go, sometimes you have no part in it and were purely a victim - which, I think, makes it harder to let go. Still it needs to be done, the letting go. Sometimes the offense was small yet profound, sometimes huge and heinous. Sometimes it's unspeakable.
All the time, tho, to encourage your heart to heal over seems to be a good idea. Nothing good comes from reliving our pain over and over. Nothing good comes from holding on & marinating in our misery.
I am choosing to forgive myself first. For my naïveté, for my mistakes. For the pain I've caused others. For the pain I've caused myself. For my shortcomings, for my challenges.
A new years resolution a month early:
let it go, forgive, forgive, forgive.
The ability to forgive shows extreme strength of character. Sometimes it means taking responsibility for your part in it and then letting go, sometimes you have no part in it and were purely a victim - which, I think, makes it harder to let go. Still it needs to be done, the letting go. Sometimes the offense was small yet profound, sometimes huge and heinous. Sometimes it's unspeakable.
All the time, tho, to encourage your heart to heal over seems to be a good idea. Nothing good comes from reliving our pain over and over. Nothing good comes from holding on & marinating in our misery.
I am choosing to forgive myself first. For my naïveté, for my mistakes. For the pain I've caused others. For the pain I've caused myself. For my shortcomings, for my challenges.
A new years resolution a month early:
let it go, forgive, forgive, forgive.
posted by Kari at
4:05 PM
1 Comments:
You've made a marvelous resolution, Kari and it's probably the hardest one you'll ever try to live up to. But it is so worth it!
As you say so eloquently, harboring anger/hatred/guilt and other negative feelings only harms the one harboring them. Additionally, it seems to require twice the energy to sustain negative thoughts.
Celebrate the elimination of every little bit of negativity from your life to keep your momentum going.
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